30 Days of Carrying My Wife☃

30 Days of Carrying My Wife☃

When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, “I’ve got something to tell you.”

She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes. Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking.

“I want a divorce.” I raised the topic calmly.

She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, “Why?”

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, “You are not a man!”

That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; I had lost my heart to a lovely girl called Dew, a woman at my work that I had developed feelings for. I didn’t love my wife anymore. I only pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement, which stated that she could own our house, 30% shares of my company and the car. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so dearly.

☃ ••• WORDS AND ACTIONS SHOULD BE THE SAME •••☃

There once was a boy who loved eating sweets. He always asked for sweets from his father. His father was a poor man. He could not always afford sweets for his son. But the little boy did not understand this, and demanded sweets all the time.

The boy’s father thought hard about how to stop the child asking for so many sweets.

There was a very holy man living nearby at that time. The boy’s father had an idea. He decided to take the boy to the great man who might be able to persuade the child to stop asking for sweets all the time.

The boy and his father went along to the great man. The father said to him, “O great saint, could you ask my son to stop asking for sweets which I cannot afford?” The great man was in difficulty,

because he liked sweets himself. How could he ask the boy to give up asking for sweets? The holy man told the father to bring his son back after one month.
During that month, the holy man gave up eating sweets, and when the boy and his father returned.

☃ A Beautiful Story of Repentance !☃

A BURGLAR scaled the wall of Maalik Bin Dinar’s house one night and easily managed to get inside. Once inside the house, the thief was disappointed to see nothing worth stealing. Maalik was busy performing prayer. Realizing he was not alone, he quickly ended his prayer and turned around to face the thief.

Without showing any signs of shock or scare, Maalik calmly extended greetings of peace and said, “My brother, may Allah forgive you. You entered my home and found nothing worth taking, yet I do not want you to leave without taking away some benefit.”

He went in another room and came back with a jug full of water. He looked into the eyes of the burglar and said,
“Make ablution and perform two units of prayer, for if you do so, you will leave my home with a greater treasure than you had initially sought.”

Humbled by Maalik’s manners and words, the thief said, “Yes, that is a generous offer indeed.”
After making ablution and performing two units of prayer, the burglar said, “O Maalik, would you mind if I stayed for a while, for I want to stay to perform two more units of prayer?”

Maalik said, “Stay for whatever amount of prayer Allah decrees for you to perform now.”
The thief ended up spending the entire night at Maalik’s house. He continued to pray until morning. Then Maalik said, “Leave now and be good.”

But instead of leaving, the thief said, “Would you mind if I stayed here with you today, for I have made an intention to fast?”

DEALING WITH LOSS

By Abida Aura Mustafa

Whether through death, loss, or disagreement, when we lose someone or something dear to us, we become overwhelmed by the pangs of grief; the pain of loss feels overbearing as though it would never end. Having to face the consequences of detachment can be a traumatic experience. All we can think of is the pain enshrouding our hearts and consuming our minds. With tears streaming down our faces, our faces contorted with emotion and our hearts too feeling as though a heavy burden has landed—the misery takes a hold of us and, blinded by our tears, we fail to see the light.
But there is a light; a light to behold even in the darkest corner of the earth, even in the murkiest depths of the ocean. We don’t have to drown in the quicksand of trauma. Nothing and nobody by Allah’s Will subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) has the ability to overpower the underlying depth of:

Inna lilLahi wa inna ilayhi raji`oon.

Verily, unto God do we belong and, verily, unto Him we shall return.

When we actually give some time and thought to reflect upon the words which constitute this statement, we come to realise that there is an extremely powerful and truthful message behind it—an answer to all our questions, grief and emotions.
This profound phrase captures the essence of our entire existence; it encapsulates where we came from and also where we are headed:

Allah

Understanding the statement has the ability to eradicate regrets and past events. It holds the key to finding contentment during those times when we think, ‘Why did that have to happen?’ We can become immersed in questioning, and drown in the misery of relentless searching for the answer…Or we can discover patience by asserting that regardless of whatever has occurred, we will indeed return to Allah (swt).

When we truly understand the meaning of inna lilLahi wa inna ilayhi raji`oon, we find that no sadness will last forever, and that we shouldn’t destroy ourselves by holding even the slightest bitterness or anger within us. By understanding that Allah (swt) is the One, the only One to Whom we belong, we should be able to move on from painful moments in our life (which we should assert as not being able to occur except that Allah (swt) Willed for it to be) and strive for our goal of meeting Him.

There should be no space for bitterness or anger when one truly comprehends the deep truthfulness of this phrase, and we should be able to forgive those who have intentionally or unintentionally wronged us because we know that Allah (swt) alone holds all sovereignty and that even our emotions belong to Him. By forgiving ourselves and others, by showing sabr (patience) in the face of death or loss, and by aspiring for Allah’s Mercy and Judgement, we open ourselves to a whole new level of understanding ourselves in the context of space and time. We can understand by His Will that Allah (swt) is all that matters, and everything else in this dunya (current life, world) is a means for us to reach Him because we want to be able to See Him at the end, for without a doubt we will have to return to Him.

‘Inna’ meaning ‘verily’ tells us that with certainty we belong to Allah (swt), that is, He Created us and bestowed on us our beginning without a doubt. ‘Inna’ occurs twice in this phrase, providing an emphasis on the certainty of Allah’s Ever-Lasting existence, emphasising the certainty of our beginning AND our end. So Allah (swt) is Al-Awwal (the Beginning, the First) and Al-Akhir (the End, the Last). Al-Awwal ul Akhir (The Ever-Lasting) is the source of light in every single moment of despair, hardship, and difficulty where our tears and grief blind us. Instead of allowing or hearts and souls to become blinded by the darkness of sadness, we can train ourselves in times of positive feelings and negative feelings to find contentment in Allah’s Decree, for nothing happens without His Decreeing it.
Allah (swt) tells us in Surah Baqarah, verses 155-156:


And certainly, We shall test you with something of fear, hunger, loss of wealth, lives and fruits, but give glad tidings to As-Sabirun (the patient). Who, when afflicted with calamity, say: “Verily! To Allah we belong and verily, to Him we shall return.” (Qur’an 2:155-156)

This is our Lord, the One Who Created us when we were nothing, telling us in His Divine Book—tanzil (sent down) to humans and jinn as a dhikr (reminder)—that He will definitely test us with trials, but that He has Promised reward for those who are patient.

And how do we be ‘patient’ in the face of turmoil?
Just as Allah (swt) has created tests involving struggle, risk and loss, Allah (swt) has also told us how to approach these tests; He has revealed to us that the patient are those who, when afflicted with calamity, say, “Inna lilLahi wa inna ilayhi raji`oon.” In His infinite Mercy, Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala has allowed for relief to accompany difficulty. This also shows us that the losses and difficulties won’t last forever, and that everything which we regard as ‘good’ or ‘bad’ in the dunya is of temporal nature.

No pain or grief or disagreement can last forever, but with certainty, Allah (swt) lasts forever and from Him we came to be and it is to Him we will with certainty return.

This means that the events which take place in this dunya are mere moments. We become so consumed by our grief that we fail to see that al-Qahhar (the Conqueror, the Ever-Dominating) has provided us with light and that even in the most difficult times, Allah (swt) provides ease with hardship.

Upon coming to terms with the truth and power imbued in inna lilLahi wa inna ilayhi raji`oon and proceeding to integrate this magnificent statement into each moment of your daily life, when you are faced with any minor or major losses, you will see a whole new world of contentment and serenity opened up to you, insha Allah (God willing).

The trials faced by Umm Salamah radi allahu `anha, may God be pleased with her, teach us important lessons about how to handle tests, loss and situations in which we do not get something we had hoped for. Her approach towards calamity shows us what it means to be patient in the face of adversity and to recognise that Allah (swt) will always restore what He takes away from a patient believer with something better.
All is NOT lost.

The beautiful way in which she approached her afflictions reminds us to rely on Allah (swt) and to never despair for He is Able to do anything at any moment; Allah (swt) is our Provider, and when we are struck by loss, and things don’t go the way we want them to, Allah (swt) is Ever-Watching and He is the Best of planners. Umm Salamah’s first husband was Abu Salamah radi allahu `anhu, may God be pleased with him, who returned to Allah (swt) during Jumada Al-Akhir in the fourth year after Hijra, after receiving wounds in the Battle of Uhud. His passing from this dunya resulted in grief for she had loved him sincerely; nonetheless, Umm Salamah (ra) did not fail to turn to Allah (swt). Heartbroken by his departure, she remained steadfast in her relationship with Allah (swt) and supplicated to Him for our Rabb (Lord) is Al Mughni—the Enricher, the One Who satisfies the necessities of His Creation. In her grief-stricken state as she wondered who could possibly be better than Abu Salamah, she supplicated:

inna lillahi wa inna ilayhi raji`oon; Allahumma ajirni fi musibati wa akhlif li khayran minha

‘Verily, we belong to Allah and verily, unto Him shall we return. O Allah! Reward me for the calamity that has befallen me and grant me better than it.’

Allah (swt) then answered her du`aa (supplication) by giving her the Messenger ﷺ (peace be upon him) himself! In Shawwal of the same year in which Abu Salamah (ra) returned to Allah (swt), the Messenger of Allah ﷺ married her. Thus, because of her patience and acknowledgement that we belong to Allah (swt) and unto him we return, Allah (swt) compensated her with reward and recompensed her loss. Allah (swt) alleviated her and answered her question, “Who is better than Abu Salamah?” by blessing her with our beloved Messenger ﷺ.

This legacy speaks volumes of the reward and relief Allah (swt) grants to those who are patient, and those who have tawwakul (reliance) on Allah (swt) to replace what is taken away from the believer who lives with patience. What we are provided with is His to give and take, and it is in acknowledging that He is the Owner of all that we are able to see through loss and hardship, and witness blessings.

If you are facing any trial in the present, know that Allah (swt) provides ease and that the cure is with you by Allah’s Will. Reflect on, and realise that none other than Allah (swt) Knows best about what adversity or struggle you are going through for Allah (swt) is the One Who tested you with such, and on no soul does He place more than that which it can bear—Allah (swt) is closer to you than your jugular vein, than your own self, and so He Knows what you are feeling. The next time you are faced with a grief or loss, or even happiness and blessing from Allah (swt), by uttering, comprehending and believing that our final destination is Allah (swt)—the end is essential for our eternal bliss—through making Allah the means to Him, glimpses of light make their way through your feeling of loss.

For each time that you submit to Allah (swt) alone by not only uttering inna lilLahi wa inna ilayhi raji`oon but by understanding it and feeling its essence in your heart and limbs through acknowledging Allah’s Power, you will not only be rewarded insha Allah but Allah (swt) will return His favours and blessings upon you for submitting to His Will with sabr (patience). Like Umm Salamah (ra), place your trust in Him to get you through any manifestation of loss, however slight or major you may consider it to be, and trust Allah (swt) to answer your supplications, for no du`aa is lost.

No distress or loss is too difficult to deal with when we know Allah (swt), and place our trust in Him to get us through everything, whether we consider the moments as good or bad. No distress or loss is too difficult to deal with when we acknowledge and apply that we certainly belong to Allah, and we certainly return to Him.

http://www.suhaibwebb.com/islam-studies/aqeedah/dealing-with-loss/

TAKING OFF THE HIJAB

Question:

I understand that hijab is required, and I’ve been wearing it for some time now but I feel like putting it on might have been a mistake.  I don’t feel like it’s made me become a better Muslim, and I feel almost like I’m deceiving people because they look at me as an example even though I’m still struggling with a lot of things. Also, if I take it off, is it really something Allah will punish me for? It seems like such a petty thing. Isn’t the most important thing having a clean heart?
Answer:
Assalaamu `alaykum dear questioner,
Thank you for asking this question which opens up a number of important issues, and for entrusting us enough to share with us some of what you’re struggling with. I ask Allah (subhanahu wa ta`ala – exalted is He) that He makes the words that I write beneficial to you and others who are reading, and that He leads you to the best decisions.
I’d like to start by addressing what I believe is the least important factor in this equation, and that is ‘what other people might think.’ It should never be the case that we alter our practice of Islam or our worship for the sake of other people, or what they might think or assume. People may be quick to judge or jump to conclusions, but whatever thoughts or opinions they have are strictly their responsibility, and not something we should be overly concerned with.

TEN THINGS ALLAH WON'T ASK

Ten things Allah WON’T ask

1… Allah (SWT) won’t ask what kind of car you drove;

He’ll ask how many people you drove who didn’t have transportation.

2… Allah (SWT) won’t ask the square footage of your house;

He’ll ask how many people you welcomed into your home.

3… Allah (SWT) won’t ask about the clothes you had in your closet;

He’ll ask how many you helped to clothe.

4… Allah (SWT) won’t ask what your highest salary was;

He’ll ask if you compromised your character to obtain it.

EAT AND DRINK WITH THE RIGHT HAND

EAT AND DRINK WITH THE RIGHT HAND


In recent times it has become apparent that many of those
who follow the Sunnah of eating using the fingers of the right
hand abandon the Sunnah of drinking with the right hand. 


When questioned about this practice they excuse themselves by stating that if they do so, their cup will get dirty. They are 
willing to dirty (abandon) the Sunnah, but they are not willing 
to dirty the cup! Subhaan-Allaah!

EVERY PARENT MUST KNOW THIS!

 

This is a message every parent & for those to be inshaAllah. Its an important one because your children are watching you and "doing as you DO," not necessarily "doing as you SAY"

When You thought I wasn't Looking


...
When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you hang my first

painting onthe refrigerator, and I immediately wanted to paint another

one.



When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you feed a stray cat,

and I learned that it was good to be kind to animals.



When you thought I wasn't looking, I saw you make my favorite

cake and I learned that little things can be the special things

in life.



When you thought I wasn't looking I heard you say a prayer,

and I knew there is a God I could always talk to and I learned to trust

in God.

THE LAST MOMENT OF THE BRIDE

True strory told by Shaykh "Abdul Mohsen al Ahmad", it happened in Abha (the capital of Asir province in Saudi Arabia)
"After performing Salat Al Maghrib, she put her make-up, wore her beautiful white dress preparing herself for her wedding party, Then she heard the Adhan of ‘Ishaa and she realized that she broke her Wudu
she told her mother : “mother, I have to go to make wudu and pray ‘Ishaa”
He...r mother was shocked : “Are you crazy?!! Guests are waiting for you, to see u! what about your make –up? It will be all washed away by water!!” then she added
” I am your mother and I order you not to perform salah now! wallahi if you make wudu now, I will be angry at you”
Her daughter replied :”wallahi I won’t go out from here till I perform my salah! Mother you must know that "There is no obedience to any creature in disobedience to the Creator."!!

Advise of a Mother to her Daughter

Jamharah Khutah al-‘Arab, 1/145

‘Abd al-Malik (RA) said: “When ‘Awf ibn Muhallim al-Shaybani, one of the most highly respected leaders of the Arab nobility during the jahiliyyah, married his daughter Umm Iyas to al-Harith ibn ‘Amr al-Kindi, she was made ready to be taken to the groom, then her mother, Umamah came into her, to advise her and said:

‘O my daughter, if it were deemed unnecessary to give you this advice because of good manners and noble descent, then it would have been unnecessary for you, because you posses these qualities, but it will serve as a reminder to those who are forgetful, and will help those who are wise.

‘O my daughter, if a woman were able to do without a husband by virtue of her father’s wealth and her need for her father, then you of all people would be most able to do without a husband, but women were created for men just as men were created for them.

‘O my daughter, you are about to leave the home in which you grew up, where you first learned to walk, to go to a place you do not know, to a companion to whom you are unfamiliar. By marrying you, he has become a master over you, so be like a servant to him, and he will become like a servant to you.

‘Take from me ten qualities, which will be a provision and a reminder for you.

‘The first and second of them are: be content in his company, and listen to and obey him, for contentment brings peace of mind, and listening to and obeying one’s husband pleases Allah.

IS IT PERMISSIBLE TO PLAY SPORTS?

A Brief Description of the Question: 

Is it permissible to play sports?

The Answer: 

It is permissible to play sports and to be a sportsperson; and it is sunnah to play some sports. However, it is necessary to cover the parts of the body that are obligatory to cover, not to commit any harams, not to play sports together with the opposite gender (men and women at the same place and time) and not to miss any fard prayers.

That is, it is permissible to play sports but it depends on the way it is carried out.
Since sport is defined as ‘physical activities in the form of games, competitions and races that aim to improve fitness’, nobody can avoid sport regardless of age and state; everybody is engaged in some kind of sport somehow; everybody plays sports or is somehow interested in some kind of sport.

Sport activities that date back to the beginning of the humankind have assumed very different dimensions today; sport has become an international activity, a universal language and a means of publicity. Every nation has started to speak that common language. Sport has increased its range quite a lot with the support of mass media like TV and the internet.

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Aauzo Billaahi Minash Shaitaan Nir Rajim

Bismillaah Hir Rehman Nir Rahim ; Allah - Beginning With The Name Of - The Most Gracious, The Most Merciful.

Allahumma Salli Alaa Sayideena Muhammad Wa Alaa Aalihi Wa Sahbihi Wa Sallim.

Layla Al Helw, a Moroccan woman, had been afflicted by cancer, and the doctors were completely helpless with no hope in her case.

She lost hope in all but Allah subhanah wa ta'ala, whom she has never sought His help before…and so she went to His holy house (in Makkah)…and there was the answer.…

She says, “9 years ago I found out that I have a very dangerous disease, cancer…everyone here knows this name is scary, and in Morocco we usually call it “ Al ghoul” (ogre) or the wicked disease!” My faith in Allah was very weak... I was completely drifted away from the remembrance of Allah subhanah wa ta'ala, and I used to think that one’s beauty and health shall remain his/her life… I never ever thought I would be afflicted by a disease like cancer… so when I found out, it did shake me so strongly from in the inside… I thought of escaping… but, where?

Where in the world I can escape from this disease that is inside me wherever I go??… I thought of committing suicide!… But… I was deeply in love with my husband and my children… but I did not think of Allah’s punishment if I commit such sin…Because, as I told you before, I was far away from remembering Allah… It was of Allah’s will that this disease was the reason of my guidance and the reason of guiding a lot of people as well…

I went to Belgium, and I visited many doctors there… They told my husband that I first have to remove my breasts, then go on certain [Banned Word Used]! I knew that such [Banned Word Used] would make my hair fall and my eye lashes and brows to disappear… it shall also grow a beard on my face and make the nails and teeth fall as well… so I completely refused this solution… “ I would rather die with my , teeth and everything that Allah has created for me than to live without them”, I said… I asked the doctors to give me another course that is less effective… and so they did…I went back to Morocco… I used thecourse and it did not cause any bad effect on my body which made me so happy… I thought; may be the doctors were wrong and I didn’t have cancer… However, after about six months, I started losing weight quickly, my color started to change and I had a continuous pain… My Moroccan doctor advised me to go back to Belgium, and so I did…There was the disaster!… The doctors told my husband that the disease has spread all over my body, that the lungs were completely infected and that

SECRET SURAH AL-KAHF

  Ever wondered why Prophet Muhammad(SAW) asked us to recite Surat Al-Kahf every Friday?
Let’s find out today inshaAllah...

This Surah has Four stories in it,having some morals,lets see them and understand what they are saying to us:

1) The People Of The Cave
Its the story of young men who lived in a disbelieving town, so they decided to migrate for the sake of Allah and run away. -Allah rewards them with mercy in the cave and protection from the sun - They woke up and found the entire village believers.
MORAL:TRIAL OF FAITH.

2) The Owner Of Two Gardens
A story of a man whom Allah blessed with two beautiful gardens, but the man forgot to thank the One who blessed him with everything and he even dared to doubt Allah regarding the afterlife.So His garden was destroyed - He regretted ,but was too late and his regret did not benefit him .
MORAL:TRIAL OF WEALTH.

BACKBITING 1

Backbiting: The Favourite passtime ofmost women, One which will lead us straight to the HELL. A passtime which leads Us to the transfer of Our Good Deeds to Another person( And their bad deeds Heaped upon Us)

Nor backbite one another; would any of you like to eat the flesh of his dead brother? You would abhor it. (Qur'an 49:12)
Prophet Muhammad (s) once said to Imam 'Ali ('a):

”O 'Ali! When someone hears the backbiting of his Muslim brother committed in his presence, yet he does not rally to his assistance despite being capable of doing so, God shall humiliate him in the world and in the Hereafter.”[Al-Hurr al-`Amili, Wasa'il al-Shi`ah, vol. 8, hadith no. 16336]

Abu Dharr ® once asked the Prophet Muhammad (s): ”O Messenger of Allah, what is gheebah?”

He replied: ”It is to mention about your brother that which he detests.”

Abu Dharr ® said: ”O Messenger of Allah, what if that which is mentioned of him should actually be in him?”

LEAVING SMOKING FOREVER 2

"Indeed, the WASTEFUL are brothers of the DEVILS, and ever has SATAN been to his LORD UNGRATEFUL." (Al Quran 17:27)

According to Medical Doctors TOBACCO is one of the cause of CANCER which means it Kills Smoker very slowly which is equals to SUICIDE, if this happens to any smoker then according to one of authentic Hadith he is confirmed one of the habitant of Hell.

Is it allowed in Islam to say one prayers with Nail-color on ?.

Is it allowed in Islam to say one prayers with Nail-color on ?.

Story of a young man with strong desires

A young man came to a shaykh and said, “I am a young man with strong desires. I cannot  help looking at people when I am in the bazaar(market). What do I do?” 

The shaykh handed him a cup of milk that was full to the brim, and told him to deliver it to an address that would take the young man directly through the bazaar (market). 

Lowering Your Gaze – Practical Steps for Getting Close to Allah [Part 2]

Lowering Your Gaze Heart

By Zubair Khan

Bismillah,

Sometimes, as a Muslim youth in America, going through high school and college while keeping your emaan can be really difficult. I want you to recall back to the last time you were in one of the following situations:

• You were walking on campus (or in the hallway) on a hot summer day and as you looked ahead to see where you were going, your eyes fell upon a half-naked beautiful woman (or man).
• Or when you were reading an Islamic article or just browsing the Internet at night and a nasty popup appeared right in front of your eyes.

At that very moment, did you immediately lower your gaze and say “astagfirullah” / “audhobillahi minnash shaytaanir rajeem”? If you did, then alhumdulillah! But if at that very moment you struggled to lower your gaze and/or didn’t feel anything in your heart telling you that you shouldn’t be looking at what you’re looking at, then you should continue reading this article…

Wallahi, lowering your gaze as a young Muslim is very difficult, especially since you have immodesty, pornography, and such lewdness running rampant in this society. We have cable television (channels such as MTV, E!, and even the Disney channel!) openly promoting this type of behavior. Even the most popular video game out right now (GTA 4) is all about money, girls, cussing, and boosting (stealing) cars! (Ya Allah…) When our hearts aren’t affected by this type of behavior, and we wonder why it’s so hard to lower our gaze, we should realize that the root of the problem isn’t our gaze, that’s just a symptom, but the root of our problem is that our hearts aren’t lowered in front of Allah (swt). And the way to lower your heart in front of Allah (swt) is by developing a strong connection with him through some of the suggestions that will be discussed below. When we develop a connection with Allah (swt), we will find that our limbs (including eyes) will automatically reject anything that displeases Allah (swt).

Seashells and Pattering Hearts

The importance of accompanying sincerity with every deed we perform. 

This is the authored portrait of a young woman, whom through growth and experiential ruminations has come to learn of herself and the world around her. She is but sixteen years old and yet, like many teenagers, she feels as though the weight of the entire world rests firmly upon her shoulders. She plasters the words “fragmented” and “naïve” boldly across her faltering self-image. She asks herself, “What is the essence of sincerity?”
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But I Love the Attention

With the hijab comes sacrifices, but we must be willing to weigh the temporal pleasures with the eternal bliss.

In her recent novel Boy vs. Girl, Na’ima B. Roberts illustrates an important, yet overlooked phenomenon for girls and women who wear hijab:

        “But lately, she had lost some of that confidence, that immunity to guys’ indifference to her. It had started to bother her that their eyes glazed over when they saw her, sliding away from her face, brightening when they saw Robina’s cheeky smile and highlighted hair.
Her pride was hurt, her vanity bristled…
Once upon a time, she had been the darling of every clique that mattered. Now, in her hijab, she was considered a pariah…”

This excerpt details the struggle of Farhana, one of the main characters in the book, as she dons the hijab. She is a teenager in high school and the confidence with which she began to wear hijab slowly diminishes as she discovers some of the consequences.

The Biggest Change

This piece comes from an Anonymous sister, whose story we found on the internet along with the request to spread it far and wide (“please forward this to all the people you know, I want every one to read my story”). We share it here (with edits for readability and flow) in the hopes that her words will touch you, too.

I am a twenty year old Muslim girl from the Arabian Gulf, “the original place of Islam.” And I want to talk to you about my life before and after hijab.
I used to believe that hijab wasn’t an important issue. That it limited my freedom. So I decided I would never wear hijab as long as I lived. Although my mother wears hijab, she never forced my sisters or I to wear it. She felt that we had to believe in hijab in order to practice it, or else we would take it off as soon as we were away from her. And that might be true in some ways.
Or maybe not having your daughters wear hijab when they are younger just makes it more difficult for them to wear it when they are older. It’s hard, when you’ve been used to something your whole life, to get up and change it all at once. It can take a long time to change your mind.
Anyway, I used to love making a “show” of myself, especially since I wasn’t at all bad looking. And that was the most difficult part. I used to love dressing up and buying expensive clothes, and I loved it when everyone was looking and pointing at me. I loved it when people would say, “Wow! She’s beautiful!”

For the Love of the Gift

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We all love gifts. We love the blessings that beautify our lives. We love our children, our spouses, our parents, our friends. We love our youth and we love our health. We love our homes, our cars, our money, our beauty. But what happens when a gift becomes more than just a gift? What happens when a want becomes a need, a favor becomes a dependency? What happens when a gift is no longer only that?

What is a gift? A gift is something that did not come from us. A gift is given—and can be taken. We are not the original owners of a gift. A gift is also not necessary for our survival. It comes and goes. We want and love to receive gifts—but they are not necessary to our existence. We don’t depend on them. We don’t live to receive them and do not die if we don’t. They are not our air or our food. But we love them.

A girl emailed an Islamic website the following story of regret, embarrassment and pain

A girl emailed an Islamic website the following story of regret, embarrassment and pain:

Assalam Aleikom waand RahmatullahAllah's Mercy wa barakatuh,

I hope you can be of use to me in this problem: I'm a 17 year old Arab girl living in an Arab country and still in high school.

Unfortunately, I learnt about the internet, I misused it and spent my days chatting with guys and watching prohibited websites

(I did such things behind my parents back and no one knew about them) even though I used to be religious and hated girls who chatted with guys.

RULING WOMEN WEARING JEANS

Praise be to Allaah.

Shaykh ‘Abd-Allaah ibn ‘Abd al-Rahmaan al-Jibreen (may Allaah preserve him) was asked about the ruling on women wearing jeans. He replied:

“As for women wearing pants or trousers, this is not permitted, even if she is on her own or in front of other women or her husband, except if she is in a closed room with her husband only. Apart from that, it is not permitted because it shows the details of her body and makes her get used to these clothes. So she is not permitted to wear these clothes at all.” (al-Nukhbah min al-Fataawaa al-Nisaa’iyyah, p. 30).

Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih ibn ‘Uthaymeen was also asked about the ruling on women wearing any kind of pants or trousers. He (may Allaah preserve him) answered:

“I think that women should not wear trousers at all, even if there is no one with her apart from her husband, because this is imitating men. The ones who wear trousers are men, and the Prophet (peace and blessings of Allaah be upon him) cursed women who imitate men.”


Majmoo’ Fataawaa wa Rasaa’il al-Shaykh Muhammad ibn Saalih al-‘Uthaymeen,

Be the Most Beautiful Woman in the World

Be the Most Beautiful Woman in the World

... With your beauty, you are better than the sun;
with your morals you are more sublime than musk;
with your modesty you are nobler than the full moon;
with your compassion you are more beneficial than rain.

So, preserve your beauty with faith,
your tranquility with contentment,
your chastity with Hijab.

A MARRIAGE PROPOSAL

A story*..about a Marriage proposal*
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Once there was a very handsome, pious, well educated young man, whose parents emphasized for him to get married. They had seen so many marriage proposals, and he had turned them all down. The parents thought it was becoming a little ridiculous or suspected that he may have someone else in mind.
However every time the parents left the girls house, the young man would always say "she's not the one!" The young man only wanted a girl who was religious and practicing (which was hard to find). However one evening his mother arranged for him, to meet a girl, who was religious and practicing.

On that evening, the young man and girl were left to talk and ask each other question (as one would expect). The young man, being a gentleman that, he was allowed, young lady to ask first.
Young girl asked the young man so many questions. She asked about his life, his education, his friends, his family, his habits, his hobbies, his lifestyle, his enjoyment, his time pass, his experiences, his shoe size and his likes and dislikes. Basically everything!
And the young man replied to all of her questions, without tiring and politely with a smile. Young girl took up nearly all of the time, over an hour and felt bad and asked the young man do you have any questions?

Please... see me for who I am

Please... see me for who I am

Open your eyes
Open your mind
Open your heart
See me for who I am

Stop gawking at my modesty
Stop staring at my clothes
Stop criticising my way of life
Believe me…
I’m happy with what I’ve chosen

GREET ONE ANOTHER

Assalaamu alaikum [Peace be to you]

Islam has professed the use of the Islamic greeting when encountering another Muslim or leaving the company of another Muslim because it unifies the hearts and strengthens bonds between Muslims.

The prophet Mohammed -peace be upon him- said, "I swear by the one whose hand my soul is in that you will not enter paradise until you believe. And you won’t be believed until you love one another. May I tell you something, that if you practice it you will love another, spread the SALAM* [Islamic greeting] among you." This makes it clear to us, that spreading SALAM among Muslims is the first step towards paradise. This is because spreading SALAM leads to increasing the love between our hearts. And the increase of love between our hearts will increase the Iman [faith].
_{*SALAM means peace in Arabic}

Behind the scarf like a pearl

Assalaamu alaikum[Peace be to you],

here's another Poem about Hijab and Muslim woman I'd like to share with you guys and girls. it's called "Hijab" (it was submitted to [link]):


You look at me and call me oppressed,
Simply because of the way I'm dressed,

You know me not for what is inside,
You judge the clothing I wear with pride,

My body is not for your eyes to hold,
You must speak to my mind, not my feminine mould,

SMILE : IT'S CHARITY

There are hundreds of languages in the world, but a smile speaks them all...

What is a Smile?
In Physiology , a smile is a facial expression formed by flexing the muscles most notably near both ends of the mouth. The smile can be also around the eyes.
In Psychology, smile is an impulse response to some situation that consequently takes us back to the emotionally stable state. One more way to define smile is, a way of welcoming any person or thing or situation in life .

Still Waiting

 Self-evaluation goes a long way in figuring out what delays us from that which is ultimately beneficial for us.

There are some sisters that truly recognize the beauty of hijab despite not shrouding themselves in it. They may practice hijab internally if not by wrapping a fabric around their heads and over their chests. And still, there are others who are completely or partially oblivious to the essence of hijab. I can still recall one sister opening her mouth in awe when she learned the true meaning of hijab and the many ways it could help her.
“You should try it one day,” I ventured, internally hoping that it would boost her confidence and excited at the possibility of her becoming a hijabi.
Her eyes averted my face and she bit her lip. “I don’t think I’m ready.”
“What do you mean?” I asked.
Hijab is certainly not an easy transition phase—a change in attire and attitude, adjustment to how people perceive you and not to mention the array of explanations you must give to both the curious and shocked acquaintances of yours.

A Most Beautiful Hadith Among All The Beautiful Ahadith

Khalid ibn al Wald (Radi Allahu Ta'ala anhu) narrated the following hadith:

A Bedouin came one day to the Holy Prophet (sallallahu 'alahi wasallam) and said to him,

'O, Messenger of Allah! I've come to ask you a few questions about the affairs of this Life and the Hereafter.'

- 'Ask what you wish' said Rasulullah (sallallahu 'alahi wasallam). 

What can you do in one minute?

What can you do in one minute?

Praise be to Allaah.

Time is of the essence, it is too precious to be wasted or neglected. The wise person is the one who pays attention to his time and does not treat it as a vessel to be filled with cheap things and vain talk. Instead, he limits it to worthy efforts and righteous deeds that please Allaah and benefit other people. Every minute of a person’s life carries the potential to raise his own status and to make his people happier, little by little.

 If you are keen to attain the highest position, and bring the most happiness to your people, then forget about relaxing and keep away from empty amusement.

CAREER & MARRIAGE! Two most important things around which the focus of many Muslim youth revolve !!

They also happen to be the most confusing things of their life as they don’t know how to go ahead and there are very few counsellors in these fields who can really counsel them from the Qur’an and the Hadith. So in order to make it easy for them to understand the theme I rotate the priorities from Career and Marriage to Marriage and Career putting marriage before Career. Don’t get a happy shock. It is in the terms of responsiblity.

A SPECIAL BOOK

BY OSAMAH SALHIA
Walking down the streets of my neighborhood in the early morning and making my way towards the ’taxi stop’ (Muslim-majority country), I expected to routinely make it to my class. I soon found out that there was an enlightening twist awaiting me today.
I entered the taxi, which would usually be filled with passengers later on in the day, and it was just me and the driver. Taking a look at the driver, he just seemed like a ‘regular’ old man, cigarette in hand, and the effects of poverty were quite apparent in his attire and his facial expressions. I tried to block those digressive thoughts out of my mind and tried to focus on the Qur’an I was preparing for my class.

The Attack Against Niqab and The Good In It

Earlier this month the Niqab / Burkha ban came into effect in France and already I have seen many new French families in the UK and in Leicester where I live French is increasingly heard being spoken in the Masaajid and streets.
Already in France, 3 sisters have been arrested for refusing to remove their veils, may Allaah keep them steadfast, and French Muslim businessman Rachid Nekkaz has pledged 1 Million Euros to help start a fund to pay off any fines levied under the new law.
But even families where the niqab is not worn have chosen to relocate out of France, which is indeed their intention of the bill in the first place, to force Muslims out of France as they are seen as a threat due to a high birthrate and very high rate of reversion (people becoming Muslim).

VEILED MUSLIM WOMAN TO RUN FOR FRENCH PRESIDENCY

A veiled Muslim woman has declared her candidacy for the French presidency. Kendra Drider has defied the ban on face-coverings since its introduction in April and plans to run to defend the rights of all French women.

A surprise candidate for the 2012 French Presidency threw her hat into the ring on Thursday by declaring her candidacy in the town of Meaux, near Paris. Her aim is to defend the rights of all French women. Kendra Drider is best known for protesting against the French face-covering ban that came into effect in April, which she repeatedly flouts by appearing in pubic in a niqab. The ban is often referred to as the veil ban or the burka ban. Kenza Drider, 32–year-old mother of three, is of Moroccan descent and a convert to Islam. 

Muslim Women: You don’t expose a delicate rose to the ravishes of the harsh desert wind !!!

Muslim women !! You don’t expose a delicate rose to the ravishes of the harsh desert wind !!!

 

I borrow the words of Sheikh Yasir Qadhi, at the 2010 Global Peace & Unity Event,
because they are so wonderful, he said:
 

We know that Muslims women are the most beautiful creatures in God’s green Earth.

And it’s not because they shed their clothes to be ogled by men. 

No no.

You don’t expose a delicate rose to the ravishes of the harsh desert wind. 

Guys !! Wanna Swim But Dont forget the Awrah

Guys !! Wanna Swim But Dont forget the Awrah

Ruling on wearing shorts for swimming or otherwise

Many people, especially those groups associated with the army, wear sports clothes that leave uncovered a small area under the navel and half of the thighs, or more on some occasions. This has become very widespread. Please give us your view on this important issue and explain the Shariah ruling on it.

Covering one’s ‘Awrah is obligatory according to a consensus of the Muslims. The woman’s body is all ‘Awrah, and there is a consensus that the buttocks and private parts of a man are his ‘Awrah as well. But the correct scholarly opinion is that the ‘Awrah for man is everything between his knee and navel. This is based on what is reported from Sayyidna Ali (may Allah be pleased with him) that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said:

NEVER UNDERSTIMATE A WOMAN IN NIQAB

Assalaamu alaikum [peace be to you],

This is a gift to the Muslim women fighting for their rights to wear what they like against the oppressive law...

Kenza Drider, a respectable mother-of-four, will leave her home in Avignon’s Place de la Résistance on Monday with the intention of committing a crime. If the police are waiting for her – and they have had more than enough warning – she will be cautioned, perhaps be asked to accompany officers to the local station, possibly face a fine and, perhaps, will leave with a criminal record.

The Prophet's [Sallallaho alaihe wasallam) Apprehensions at the time of a storm

Hadhrat Aishah (Radhiyallaho anha) relates that whenever a strong wind bringing dense clouds started blowing, the Prophet's (Sallallaho alaihe wasallam) face turned pale with the fear of Allah. He became restive and would go in and out with perturbation, and would recite the following prayer:

BEARD....SUNNAH OR FARD?

Dear Brother in Islaam,
You should know that Allaah, Most High says: " It is not for the believing man or woman, when Allaah and His Messenger have decreed a matter that they should have any option in their decision" (Soorah 33:36)

He, the Almighty also says: "And let those who oppose the Messenger’s command-ment beware, lest some affliction befall them or a painful torment be inflicted upon them" (Soorah 24:63)

LOWERING GAZE MEANS NOT ONLY REFRAINING FROM LOOKING AT PEOPLE'S AWRAHS

"I will Lower My Gaze"

In Islamic terminology it refers to a number of things:

1 – Refraining from looking at people’s ‘awrahs, which includes the beauty of a non-mahram woman.

Shaykh al-Islam Ibn Taymiyah (may Allaah have mercy on him) said in Majmoo’ al-Fataawa (15/414):

Allaah, may He be glorified and exalted, has enjoined us in His Book to lower the gaze, which is of two types: refraining from looking at ‘awrahs and refraining from looking at the site of desire.

I WANNA WEAR HIJAB

My hijab story is like a secret diary no one should ever read. It is filled with horrible facts about me and points to my mistakes and weaknesses. My journey to hijab is filled with fear, negativity and regret. So I warn you: read with caution.

The most important thing you should know is that I used to wear hijab, but eventually took it off. I hate saying it, admitting to the world that I was one of those ignorant girls who went backwards after putting on the hijab, instead of moving forward with my deen. But it’s what I did and I can’t change that.

A change of heart doesn't mean a change of past

"A change of heart doesn't mean a change of past"

Plot Summary:
"A young newlywed couple is faced with divorce after one of their past's comes back to haunt them!"

BABY TAQWA

A charming story by Anonymous highlighting the uncorrupted nature of a child and her sincere relationship with her Creator.

She was chubby and bubbly. Her jet black curls twirled about her round shoulders. Her wide excited eyes curiously took in the world around her. Geared with an infectious laugh she was set out to just live. She made friends instantly and effortlessly managed to initiate conversation with even the most reserved and private of people. Her pattering feet and cheerful hum resonated color and beauty in the entire house. Her family adored her with immense fondness. She was a ray of sunshine. And she was six.